We caught up with them to learn more about their work and how Hoovie’s pop-up cinema model fits in.
Claudia and Alex Li Trisiglio, founders of Modern Relationships
Hoovie: What are “modern relationships”?
Claudia: We like to say, “It’s not about finding the right person, it’s about being the right person.”
So many of us are looking for someone to solve our problems – to “complete” us. But how many of us are willing to do our work so we can be “right” for others, instead of simply wanting them to be “right” for us?
We’re discovering that more and more people do want to invest in being the right person, especially Millennials and Gen Z.
Alex: People today don’t only want practical or romantic relationships. They want to be with someone who inspires them to grow and be the best version of themselves. We call these “modern relationships.”
Above and below: Couples interviewed by filmmaker Doug Block in the film 112 Weddings.
Hoovie: Why did you create modern relationships?
Alex: First of all, we believe that relationships matter. Our closest personal relationships are a key determinant of many life outcomes including economic, social and psychological well-being. But the quality of relationships is declining in the face of social and economic changes, and most of us don’t have much in the way of practices or tools to ensure that we consistently build the relationships we want.
Claudia: Also, for those of us seeking to grow, the sheer number of books, blogs and videos offering advice on self-help and relationships can be overwhelming. We want to help people cut through all the complexity by bringing together the best tools and practices into one place.
Alex: Our mission is to build better lives through better relationships. We see a fundamental connection between the global and the personal. Many of us want to make the world a better place, but how many of us can consistently bring our best to even the one person closest to us?
Claudia: We believe that changing the world starts with ourselves, and there’s no better place to practice than in our relationships.
Hoovie: How do you support your clients?
Claudia: Right now we offer in-person workshops and we are fostering a community of practice through events such as this movie night. We also offer relationships coaching to personal and corporate clients.
Hoovie: What is the purpose of Monday’s event? Why did you choose to screen 112 Weddings?
Claudia: One of our biggest learnings from our workshops so far is how much our participants want to be part of a community of practice. Monday’s Hoovie Movie Night event is an opportunity for them to gather, enjoy each other’s company, and support each other’s learning and growth.
Alex: It’s also an opportunity for new people to meet our community and get a taste of the tools and practices we teach in Modern Relationships.
We chose this film because it poses questions that people are often afraid to ask. We also appreciate the diversity of couples interviewed – both in terms of their backgrounds, and the different ways that their relationships evolved.
Claudia: We also like how the “before” and “after” footage helps challenge some of our preconceived notions about committed relationships and marriages.
Anyone interested in learning practices and tools to build high-quality relationships in community are invited to attend Claudia and Alex’s Coal Harbour screening in Vancouver on Monday, May 6, 2019. Buy tickets online. Watch the trailer: